What I Learned From Living in My Feminine for 30 Days

I’ve spent much of my life living in my masculine energy without even realizing it.
Planning every detail. Controlling outcomes. Pushing myself to the limit. Hustling to be “enough.”

And while that drive once gave me success, it also left me exhausted, disconnected from my body, and strangely unfulfilled.

So a few months ago, I decided to try an experiment: What would happen if I lived fully in my feminine energy for 30 days?

No chasing. No controlling. No over-functioning.
Just softening, receiving, trusting, and embodying the flow.

What unfolded was more powerful than I could have ever imagined. Here’s what I learned.

1. Slowing Down Felt Uncomfortable—Then Liberating

The first week was the hardest. My nervous system was wired to do, do, do. If I wasn’t answering emails at lightning speed, planning my next project, or filling my calendar, I felt… guilty.

Living in my feminine meant choosing to pause. It meant savoring my morning tea without scrolling. It meant lying on the grass for no reason other than to feel the sun on my skin.

At first, I felt restless. Lazy even. But soon, something beautiful happened: I began to breathe again. My body softened. My creativity flowed. The more I slowed down, the more alive I felt.

2. Receiving Was Harder Than Giving

I always thought of myself as generous. I loved to give, help, and support others. But when the experiment asked me to practice receiving, I realized how much I resisted it.

A friend offered to pay for lunch—I instinctively said, “No, no, I’ve got it.”
A man complimented me—I brushed it off.
Someone offered help—I politely declined.

It hit me: I had built an identity around being the giver, the strong one, the capable one. But in doing so, I had closed myself off from the sweetness of being cared for.

So I started small. Accepting compliments with a smile. Allowing someone to hold the door. Saying “yes, thank you” instead of deflecting.

The more I received, the more nourished I felt. And the more nourished I felt, the more naturally I had to give.

3. My Relationships Shifted Instantly

Living in my feminine softened the way I connected with others. Instead of trying to impress, convince, or manage interactions, I simply was. Present. Receptive. Open.

In dating, I noticed how men responded differently. When I leaned back instead of chasing or overexplaining, they leaned in. When I trusted instead of controlled, they showed up more.

In friendships, I became a better listener. Instead of filling the space with advice, I held space. And my teenage daughter? She opened up to me more when I stopped “fixing” and simply listened with love.

The lesson was clear: feminine energy invites connection instead of control.

4. My Body Held More Wisdom Than My Mind

For years, I lived in my head—overthinking, analyzing, strategizing. This experiment brought me back into my body.

Each morning, I practiced gentle movement: swaying, stretching, dancing slowly to music that made me feel alive. I asked my body simple questions: What do you need? What do you feel? What are you telling me?

Sometimes the answer was rest. Sometimes it was touch. Sometimes it was to cry.

The biggest revelation? My body always knew the truth before my mind did. The more I listened, the more clarity I found.

5. Softness is Not Weakness

I grew up believing strength meant being unshakable, independent, and tough. But in these 30 days, I discovered another kind of strength—the strength of softness.

It takes courage to open your heart when you’ve been hurt.
It takes resilience to sit with your emotions instead of numbing them.
It takes power to let go of control and trust that life will meet you.

Feminine softness isn’t fragility—it’s magnetic strength. The kind that draws love, abundance, and support toward you naturally.

6. Mystery is Magnetic

Part of this experiment was embracing my emotional depth and mystery instead of over-explaining myself.

I stopped sending long justifications for my boundaries. I stopped oversharing every detail of my inner process. I allowed myself to be seen but not fully figured out.

And you know what? People leaned in. They listened more. They asked more questions. They respected my space.

I learned that the feminine doesn’t chase validation by over-disclosing. She allows herself to be felt—and that mystery is deeply magnetic.

7. Manifestation Became Effortless

Perhaps the most surprising outcome was how easily things flowed when I stopped forcing.

During those 30 days, opportunities showed up in my inbox without me pitching. A financial blessing arrived that I hadn’t planned for. A man from my past reached out with genuine care and clarity.

Why? Because when I stopped chasing, I stopped blocking. My energy became receptive instead of resistant.

I realized that manifestation isn’t about working harder—it’s about aligning with the energy of already having, already being. Feminine energy opens that portal.

8. Standards Became Sacred

Living in my feminine wasn’t about saying “yes” to everything—it was about saying a deeper “no” to what didn’t align.

I became clear about what I desired in relationships, work, and daily life. Instead of negotiating with myself, I held my standards with grace.

And the most beautiful part? I didn’t have to demand anything. Simply by embodying my worth, the world began to reflect it back to me.

9. Pleasure Became a Compass

For 30 days, I let pleasure guide me. That didn’t mean indulging recklessly—it meant asking: Does this light me up? Does this nourish me? Does this feel good in my body and soul?

Sometimes pleasure was as simple as taking a longer bath, buying fresh flowers, or savoring chocolate without guilt. Other times it meant creating art, dancing barefoot, or journaling by candlelight.

Pleasure became a practice of presence. And presence became the doorway to joy.

10. The Feminine is a Daily Devotion

After 30 days, I realized something important: feminine energy isn’t a phase or a challenge. It’s a way of life.

It’s not about rejecting the masculine—we need structure, direction, and action. But it’s about restoring balance.

Living in my feminine reminded me that I am not a machine. I am a woman. A cyclical, emotional, intuitive, radiant being. And when I honor that truth, life flows in ways control never could.

What I’ll Never Forget

Here’s the heart of what I learned from my 30-day feminine experiment:

🌸 I am more magnetic when I soften than when I strive.
🌸 I receive more when I stop chasing.
🌸 My worth doesn’t increase with productivity.
🌸 My body is wise, my emotions are sacred, and my softness is my power.

Living in my feminine was not about doing less—it was about being more of who I truly am.

An Invitation for You

If you’re reading this and you feel exhausted from chasing, controlling, and over-functioning, I invite you to try your own experiment. Maybe it’s not 30 days. Maybe it’s just one week.

Practice softening. Practice receiving. Practice listening to your body and trusting life.

Because, my love, everything you desire—love, abundance, joy—already wants to find you. But it can only arrive when you stop running and start opening.

Remember this:

✨ You don’t have to chase what is already yours. Your only job is to embody it. ✨

And when you do, life meets you in the most beautiful, unexpected ways.